Holiday Survival, Part 2: Coping with Anxiety

Holiday Worries The holidays often bring anxiety and worry. What gift will I buy for so and so? Who am I forgetting? Are these gifts good enough? Will they notice if I don’t get them anything? What if I don’t contribute to the office charity this year? Am I a bad person? How am I… Read More

Holiday Survival Tips, Part 1: “The Ally”

The Holiday Gathering Gauntlet Holiday gatherings can turn a happy time of year into a minefield of stress. Even if you are in good spirits, family gatherings can bring you to the verge of a breakdown. Most of us love our families, but getting together for a celebratory feast can cause dread and anxiety. That… Read More

Man Alone in A Relationship

Always In Trouble  Men often struggle to understand what is happening in their relationship. You may feel you are always “in trouble”. You have no idea what she’s talking about. She said she wanted one thing, now today she’s mad that you aren’t doing something else. Somehow you are just supposed to know what she… Read More

Not Taking Care of Yourself?

The Cause Could be Anxiety We often know we are not taking care of ourselves. Whether it is not eating healthy food, not getting enough sleep, not exercising – most of us our quick to point out that we “just don’t have time”.  We may not get together with friends, do fun things we used… Read More

Ask For What You Want

My first rule for people in Couples Counseling is: “Ask for what you want!”  This is essential, because it lies at the heart of what is needed in every relationship: communication and getting your needs met. People often don’t communicate what they need in a relationship because of fear. People are afraid for many reasons:… Read More