Exercise (don’t read this, just go, you’ll feel better)

Posted by on Jan 14, 2014 in Coping Skills, Health, Mental Health, Therapy, Wellness | 0 comments

It’s not uncommon in therapy for clients to tell me “I know I need to exercise more” (in fact, it’s not uncommon for me to tell myself that). Much has been written about the Mind-Body Connection over the years, but it is such a common theme in my sessions that I feel it’s worth addressing. “Talk therapy” in any of its various forms can be helpful in and of itself, however sometimes addressing the physical while also working on psychological issues can bring about more profound and lasting changes. Achieving wellness ideally involves a...

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What if?

Posted by on Dec 19, 2013 in anxiety, Existential, Life Lessons, Mental Health, Wellness | 0 comments

My car is in the shop. I’m at a local spot having coffee. Amazing how crowded this place is. Doesn’t anybody work anymore? Well, an excuse for me not to work at the moment, except my brain is working overtime. This car has ben limping along for while now. Most would have put the old clunker out of its misery long ago, but I’ve grown attached to the hunk of metal. No car payment is nice too. Anxiety can sneak up on me at times like this. I talk to worriers everyday, I know all the tricks. It can be easy to fall into the trap....

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A Recipe for Coping with Grief over the Holidays

Posted by on Dec 3, 2013 in Coping Skills, Grief, Holiday Blues, Holidays, Loss, Mental Health, Seasonal Depression, Wellness | 0 comments

The holidays are tough for a lot of people.  This is especially true if you’ve lost a loved one.  We miss having someone who’s no longer with us – and holidays feel emptier without them.  It can be even harder if your loved one passed away during the holidays.   We sometimes imagine that a holiday season cannot be happy without that someone special. Grief at the holidays is difficult because the holidays bring constant reminders of the way things used to be. There are a few things you can do to help you cope with this holiday grief. ...

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No Need for Therapy During the Holidays Top Ten List

Posted by on Nov 21, 2013 in Holiday Blues, Holiday Stress, Holidays, Mental Health, Relationships, Therapy, Wellness | 0 comments

10. “I’ve been going to therapy for a while now, I deserve a break.” 9. “With all this shopping, I’ve got more shopping to do.” 8. “With all this shopping, I can’t afford therapy.” 7.  “If I don’t talk about it, it’ll be easier to pretend to be happy this year.” 6. “All the cold/snow/darkness – I hate going out when it’s like this!” 5.  “I have to work late (because then I can avoid confronting my holiday issues).” 4.  “I hate the holidays and...

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Winning the Relationship War is a Losing Battle

Posted by on Nov 13, 2013 in Communication, Couples, Couples Counseling, Divorce, Marriage, Mental Health, Relationships, Therapy | 1 comment

Couples often become mired in a long running siege of relationship warfare.  Usually this type of tension is not direct confrontation – the plate throwing and screaming so loud the neighbors call the police scenarios that fill television dramas.  Usually it’s a little more subdued.  The occasional argument, sniping when the other person is walking out of the room, comments under the breath, sarcasm, criticism with the implication that you know the other person is not going to change, and passive aggressive behaviors, name calling, backhanded...

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Man Up and Call a Counselor

Posted by on Oct 27, 2013 in Cognitive, Coping Skills, Male Depression, Men, Mental Health, Therapy, Wellness | 0 comments

Men often avoid therapy in large extent due to receiving social messages from an early age to be tough and independent.  Independence has played a big role in our country’s identity starting with the founding fathers, continuing with pioneers who moved westward and over the years this idea of the independent male figure has grown to mythological proportions.  We should be able to fix the large truck that we bought with cash that we made with our own business that we worked nights to make a success.  The more pain we endure, mental or physical...

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Health Care Reform Madness: Paying or Saving?

Posted by on Oct 25, 2013 in Health, Health Care Reform, Mental Health, Obamacare, Wellness | 2 comments

I just want to respond to one of the Health Care Reform/Affordable Care Act concerns that seem to have many people upset and worried.  “We are all going to end up paying more for this – and we’ll have to foot the bill for those who can’t pay.” Let me speak from my own experience as a Mental Health therapist.  A person has anxiety or depression. They know they have a problem, they know they would like to seek help for it, but either they don’t have insurance, or they have insurance with a $2600 deductible so...

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Re-Starting After a Long Hiatus

Posted by on Oct 10, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I’ve taken a bit of a hiatus from this blog.  It’s taken me at least a month to get back to it, since I told myself “I want to start blogging again!”  That delay reflects my personality and partly is just a result of being busy.  In any event it’s descriptive of what I hear from a lot of therapy clients: I know there is something I want to do that would be good for me, but I just don’t seem to get started”.   How to flip the switch?  How to walk out that door?  How to put on those new running shoes...

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The Extra Mile

Posted by on Apr 9, 2012 in Cognitive, Health, Wellness | 0 comments

I went for what I thought would be a quick hike this morning.  Within the first 50 feet I realized it was going to be more difficult than usual.  After a long weekend and taking a couple weeks off from hiking, my legs were feeling like cement.  On the initial steep slope that I usually try to do without stopping, I stopped twice.  I made the slow trek up wondering if I had acquired a rare circulatory disorder or just needed a personal trainer, all while attempting not to breathe heavily when I met athletic looking people on their way down...

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Talk to your Doctor (most of you already are, it appears)

Posted by on Mar 12, 2012 in Health, Therapy, Wellness | 0 comments

Research shows that 40 – 50% of depressive and anxiety disorders are first diagnosed by a primary care physician.  This is probably due to the fact that a majority of those with depression and/or anxiety also have another health condition that needs to be treated.  You go in and talk to the doctor about your cholesterol and they notice that you seem worried about a lot more than your LDL number.  Sadly, most of us still view mental health as something separate from physical health.  The common assumption is still that if you have a bad cough...

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