This is all about YOU.
In the end, it all boils down to you.
Even when you are in a loving, long-term relationship, all you have control over is you.
Even though you care deeply about the people in your life, and sometimes they need your help, you can’t do everything.
You can only change yourself. If you want to be a better spouse, parent, friend, coworker – the best thing you can do is take care of you. Individual therapy is one of the most profound and powerful ways to take care of yourself.
It’s easy to blame others and circumstances.
As individuals, we often focus on everybody else – or forces outside our control. The boss makes us miserable. Our spouse drives us crazy. Our kids stress us out.
The people on the news are idiots. Natural disasters are terrifying. Potential illness or injury are a constant threat around the corner. The houses we live in and the cars we drive are always falling apart. Our bodies often rebel against us.
It can be exhausting dealing with the world. Because of this, people tend to be lost in depression or overwhelmed with anxious worry.
There is a way out, however. There is a way to deal with all these external forces. The key is focusing on you. When we change the focus to what we can control (ourselves!), then the world becomes a friendlier place, and we feel better.
It’s okay to be selfish.
Going to therapy, talking about yourself, spending this money on you – that could be selfish.
Society rewards focus on other people. Bosses love it when you sacrifice everything for the company, kids enjoy being doted upon, spouses will take as much attention as you can give them.
Often, however, we focus so much on other parts of our lives that we suffer inside. If we don’t take some time and spend some energy on self-care, then we start to fall apart. Whether it is stress, sadness, anger, pain, grief – if we don’t resolve these issues, they tend to get worse over time.
We can try to cover emotional distress with workaholism, non-stop activities, substances, distractions, entertainment, staying busy. But if we don’t face the things that are really bothering us, then they rise to the surface and cause more problems.
Family members notice that we are unhappy. It gets harder to focus on work or school. Health problems get ignored and get worse. Essentially, it can’t just be about everybody else. It must be about you.
Individual therapy is a unique and valuable opportunity to focus on you. Not only do you deserve this, but it might be the BEST thing you can do. A healthier, happier, stronger you IS the best thing you can do for everyone else.
Call me today at (720) 315-0123 or fill out the contact form below to start creating a new approach to living.