Anxiety, Worry, Stress
These are just a normal part of daily life these days – right? Life is complicated, everyone is busy, and there’s never enough time. A little bit of anxiety is normal, but it can also get out of control and make life miserable.
Anxiety can affect people in different harmful ways, here are a few:
Wendy, the Worrier
Wendy is on edge all the time. She tries to concentrate on one thing, but her mind is always off worrying about something else. “Will I be late? Am I forgetting something? Did I say the wrong thing – are they going to think I’m nuts? Am I eating too much? Do people think I’m fat? I am never going to get a promotion, I can’t even talk in front of people. I must be crazy!”
For people like Wendy, the worrying is all the time – about everything. Often, people don’t even know that worrying is a part of anxiety. It feels like it’s necessary.
The world is full of bad things, mistakes and accidents – we must be prepared! Could it be possible not to worry?! The answer is yes. Worrying does not have to take over your whole life. A little bit of worry here and there is okay. But when it strains relationships, gets in the way at work, keeps you up at night, disrupts fun activities, then Anxiety is a problem.
Therapy provides tools to work through it, learn how to manage it, and help you control your thoughts so that worry doesn’t run your life.
Some people experience anxiety in the form of Panic Attacks. Panic is more than just being upset for a few minutes. Panic can also develop into a chronic problem and create a lot of distress. For many people, like Patrick, it comes out of the blue for no reason.
Patrick was a junior in college and enjoying life. He was getting good grades and had lots of friends. One day he was sitting in class when out of the blue he started feeling strange. He felt warm all over and light headed.
Then there was this overwhelming feeling of dread. “Am I going to pass out?” He’d never felt this way, it was scary. Suddenly his heart was beating fast, and it was pounding. He started sweating, and his hands and feet started tingling. “This is it, I’m going to die!” He ran out of class and didn’t feel well for hours. Maybe it was the flu?
A few days later it happened again. Then the attacks became more frequent. A few times he woke up in the middle of the night. Every day became filled with thinking, “What if it happened here? What if people think I’m crazy? What if this is something serious?” He finally went home and saw his family doctor, who ran some tests and then referred him to counseling.
Panic Disorder makes you feel miserable, but it is treatable, and many people don’t need medication. There are practical skills and techniques you can learn in counseling that will make things better. Don’t keep suffering like Patrick. Call me at (720) 315-0123 today to start counseling that can help you feel much better.
Socially Awkward Sally
Social anxiety causes many problems – it is more than just being shy. People with social anxiety go through life with a lot of distress. Talking is uncomfortable, and there is often isolation and loneliness.
Sally has always been nervous around people. When she was young, she was scared to go to school. Later, she was always afraid to ask the teacher questions. In high school, she had a few good friends, but was never outgoing. She did well in college, but group projects were difficult.
As an adult at work, Sally avoids eye contact in the hall to avoid conversations. She lets calls go to voicemail. She waits days to talk to her boss about things that are important.
Sally often feels detached, even with a small group of friends. It seems like everything is easy for everyone else. She feels self-conscious and wonders if she has anything interesting to say. Sometimes she laughs at the wrong time or says odd things out of the blue. She never really feels comfortable. Sally waits for others to call and worries they don’t want to be around her.
Relationships have been few and far between. Sally either tries too hard to get people to like her or acts like she doesn’t care – and ends up alone.
Life doesn’t have to be this way! Therapy for social anxiety can make being around people easier. There are techniques for calming yourself down that don’t involve drugs.
There are communication skills that can make initiating conversations easier. Therapy can also help people work through hurt and pain from past situations that have made socializing scary. Call me at (720) 315-0123 today or fill out the contact form to start enjoying being around people!
Anxiety can take many forms.
I work with people who struggle with worry, panic, social anxiety, PTSD, OCD, and hypochondria. I also work with people who are adjusting to new situations – a recent move, a new job, a new relationship, dealing with difficult coworkers, or coping with stress after car accidents.
Anxiety is often very difficult to overcome on your own. There are proven strategies that we can use to make your life easier and more enjoyable. Call me at (720) 315-0123 or fill out the contact form to start therapy!