Holiday Survival Tips, Part 1: “The Ally”

The Holiday Gathering Gauntlet Holiday gatherings can turn a happy time of year into a minefield of stress. Even if you are in good spirits, family gatherings can bring you to the verge of a breakdown. Most of us love our families, but getting together for a...

Man Alone in A Relationship

Always In Trouble  Men often struggle to understand what is happening in their relationship. You may feel you are always “in trouble”. You have no idea what she’s talking about. She said she wanted one thing, now today she’s mad that you aren’t doing...

Ask For What You Want

My first rule for people in Couples Counseling is: “Ask for what you want!”  This is essential, because it lies at the heart of what is needed in every relationship: communication and getting your needs met. People often don’t communicate what they need in a...

Choosing Trust

Trust can often feel strained or even broken in a relationship.  A partner contacts someone of the opposite sex on the internet. Inappropriate texts. Cheating. A return to addictive behaviors – alcohol, drug use, gambling, porn – these all can hurt a...