anxiety

Coping with Tragedy

Posted by on Oct 2, 2017 in anxiety, Coping Skills, Loss, Sadness, Stress, Trauma, Violence | 0 comments

Faced with yet another horrific news story about a mass shooting today, most of us are saddened, angered and generally overwhelmed with emotion. There is no logic, and it is impossible to find any meaningful explanation for this event.   How we can cope with this on a personal level is a big question.  While much of my work as a therapist utilizes what is called cognitive therapy, cognitive therapy is not going to help much here. There is no positive way to re-frame senseless killing and dying.  There is no good side to this.  Attempting to find different “self-talk” to make it seem even 10%...

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Reconnecting

Posted by on Sep 2, 2015 in anxiety, Communication, Depression, Family, Marriage, Mindfulness, Relationships | 0 comments

Human beings are social animals. Although many people are what psychologists call “introverts”, our ancestors throughout almost all of history have spent their time depending upon each other. From an evolutionary perspective, interpersonal relationships are desirable because our connection to others helps us survive physically. Emotions, however, are integral to our human experience.  Our feeling of connection, or bonding, to other people plays a big role in our identity and our emotional well being. Even the most independent of us still want to know that we have family or close friends who...

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Waiting for Things to Get Better

Posted by on Jul 9, 2014 in anxiety, Depression, Mental Health, Relationships, Stress, Therapy | 0 comments

Imagine the following bizarre scenarios.   You wake up and a tree has fallen on your house, so you decide to wait for it to decompose on its own. You hope that the tree will roll to one side eventually and you’ll have a nice skylight. You are busy at work and there is a fire alarm. You assume it is a drill and stay at your desk. Smoke begins to fill the room. The lights have gone out and your computer stops working. You decide to hold your breath and wait and see if your computer turns back on. You’re driving down the road and hear a loud clanking noise coming from the car.  All of a sudden...

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Enjoy Your Weekend (and Today)

Posted by on May 21, 2014 in anxiety, Coping Skills, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Stress | 0 comments

It’s Wednesday, and I’m scrambling to get ready for a long holiday weekend.  I’m looking forward to time off, spending time with friends and “getting outta dodge”. However, the usual To-Do List has gotten longer.  There is more to pack into each day this week – aside from the usual circus of taking care of kids.   Clients talk to me about being overwhelmed like this all the time: “How can I manage the stress of day to day activities better?  It seems my life is all about getting through “the list” – all I do is work, chores, and errands.” Here are a few strategies – ones that...

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What if?

Posted by on Dec 19, 2013 in anxiety, Existential, Life Lessons, Mental Health, Wellness | 0 comments

My car is in the shop. I’m at a local spot having coffee. Amazing how crowded this place is. Doesn’t anybody work anymore? Well, an excuse for me not to work at the moment, except my brain is working overtime. This car has ben limping along for while now. Most would have put the old clunker out of its misery long ago, but I’ve grown attached to the hunk of metal. No car payment is nice too. Anxiety can sneak up on me at times like this. I talk to worriers everyday, I know all the tricks. It can be easy to fall into the trap. What if? What if it’s a huge repair –...

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