Stress

Coping with Tragedy

Posted by on Oct 2, 2017 in anxiety, Coping Skills, Loss, Sadness, Stress, Trauma, Violence | 0 comments

Faced with yet another horrific news story about a mass shooting today, most of us are saddened, angered and generally overwhelmed with emotion. There is no logic, and it is impossible to find any meaningful explanation for this event.   How we can cope with this on a personal level is a big question.  While much of my work as a therapist utilizes what is called cognitive therapy, cognitive therapy is not going to help much here. There is no positive way to re-frame senseless killing and dying.  There is no good side to this.  Attempting to find different “self-talk” to make it seem even 10%...

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Ten Steps Toward Healthy Communication about Money

Posted by on Jul 30, 2014 in Couples, Couples Counseling, Marriage, Money, Money, Relationships, Stress | 0 comments

Many couples become stuck in a rut with money. Both people in the relationship begin to become entrenched in their opinion that the other person is “wrong”.  When the issue does come up, both fire away at each other with verbal attacks, or sarcastic comments.  Sometimes it festers below the surface and couples often either become more detached, or act in ways that are passive aggressive.  The longer these patterns continue, the further apart the couple becomes emotionally.  Gradually it becomes more difficult to communicate and make decisions together.  If it continues for too long both...

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Waiting for Things to Get Better

Posted by on Jul 9, 2014 in anxiety, Depression, Mental Health, Relationships, Stress, Therapy | 0 comments

Imagine the following bizarre scenarios.   You wake up and a tree has fallen on your house, so you decide to wait for it to decompose on its own. You hope that the tree will roll to one side eventually and you’ll have a nice skylight. You are busy at work and there is a fire alarm. You assume it is a drill and stay at your desk. Smoke begins to fill the room. The lights have gone out and your computer stops working. You decide to hold your breath and wait and see if your computer turns back on. You’re driving down the road and hear a loud clanking noise coming from the car.  All of a sudden...

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Enjoy Your Weekend (and Today)

Posted by on May 21, 2014 in anxiety, Coping Skills, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Stress | 0 comments

It’s Wednesday, and I’m scrambling to get ready for a long holiday weekend.  I’m looking forward to time off, spending time with friends and “getting outta dodge”. However, the usual To-Do List has gotten longer.  There is more to pack into each day this week – aside from the usual circus of taking care of kids.   Clients talk to me about being overwhelmed like this all the time: “How can I manage the stress of day to day activities better?  It seems my life is all about getting through “the list” – all I do is work, chores, and errands.” Here are a few strategies – ones that...

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