Loss

Coping with Tragedy

Posted by on Oct 2, 2017 in anxiety, Coping Skills, Loss, Sadness, Stress, Trauma, Violence | 0 comments

Faced with yet another horrific news story about a mass shooting today, most of us are saddened, angered and generally overwhelmed with emotion. There is no logic, and it is impossible to find any meaningful explanation for this event.   How we can cope with this on a personal level is a big question.  While much of my work as a therapist utilizes what is called cognitive therapy, cognitive therapy is not going to help much here. There is no positive way to re-frame senseless killing and dying.  There is no good side to this.  Attempting to find different “self-talk” to make it seem even 10%...

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Ten Ways to Cope With Grief

Posted by on Oct 29, 2014 in Depression, Existential, Grief, Holiday Stress, Loss | 0 comments

Grief over a loved one dying is a challenge that all of us face at one time or another.  The usual question is: “What can I do to get through this?!”  Time does not always heal all wounds, sometimes we need to actively attend to our grief and find ways to make meaning out of what is often a tragic and traumatic event. One:  Allow Yourself to Feel.  Feel whatever emotions you are feeling at this time, and resist the temptation to label any of that as wrong, weak, or bad. You may go through the classic stages of: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – or you may go...

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A Recipe for Coping with Grief over the Holidays

Posted by on Dec 3, 2013 in Coping Skills, Grief, Holiday Blues, Holidays, Loss, Mental Health, Seasonal Depression, Wellness | 0 comments

The holidays are tough for a lot of people.  This is especially true if you’ve lost a loved one.  We miss having someone who’s no longer with us – and holidays feel emptier without them.  It can be even harder if your loved one passed away during the holidays.   We sometimes imagine that a holiday season cannot be happy without that someone special. Grief at the holidays is difficult because the holidays bring constant reminders of the way things used to be. There are a few things you can do to help you cope with this holiday grief.  The first is: Reach Out for Support. The more you...

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