Coping Skills

Coping with Tragedy

Posted by on Oct 2, 2017 in anxiety, Coping Skills, Loss, Sadness, Stress, Trauma, Violence | 0 comments

Faced with yet another horrific news story about a mass shooting today, most of us are saddened, angered and generally overwhelmed with emotion. There is no logic, and it is impossible to find any meaningful explanation for this event.   How we can cope with this on a personal level is a big question.  While much of my work as a therapist utilizes what is called cognitive therapy, cognitive therapy is not going to help much here. There is no positive way to re-frame senseless killing and dying.  There is no good side to this.  Attempting to find different “self-talk” to make it seem even 10%...

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Enjoy Your Weekend (and Today)

Posted by on May 21, 2014 in anxiety, Coping Skills, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Stress | 0 comments

It’s Wednesday, and I’m scrambling to get ready for a long holiday weekend.  I’m looking forward to time off, spending time with friends and “getting outta dodge”. However, the usual To-Do List has gotten longer.  There is more to pack into each day this week – aside from the usual circus of taking care of kids.   Clients talk to me about being overwhelmed like this all the time: “How can I manage the stress of day to day activities better?  It seems my life is all about getting through “the list” – all I do is work, chores, and errands.” Here are a few strategies – ones that...

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Exercise (don’t read this, just go, you’ll feel better)

Posted by on Jan 14, 2014 in Coping Skills, Health, Mental Health, Therapy, Wellness | 0 comments

It’s not uncommon in therapy for clients to tell me “I know I need to exercise more” (in fact, it’s not uncommon for me to tell myself that). Much has been written about the Mind-Body Connection over the years, but it is such a common theme in my sessions that I feel it’s worth addressing. “Talk therapy” in any of its various forms can be helpful in and of itself, however sometimes addressing the physical while also working on psychological issues can bring about more profound and lasting changes. Achieving wellness ideally involves a holistic approach in order to improve many aspects of...

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A Recipe for Coping with Grief over the Holidays

Posted by on Dec 3, 2013 in Coping Skills, Grief, Holiday Blues, Holidays, Loss, Mental Health, Seasonal Depression, Wellness | 0 comments

The holidays are tough for a lot of people.  This is especially true if you’ve lost a loved one.  We miss having someone who’s no longer with us – and holidays feel emptier without them.  It can be even harder if your loved one passed away during the holidays.   We sometimes imagine that a holiday season cannot be happy without that someone special. Grief at the holidays is difficult because the holidays bring constant reminders of the way things used to be. There are a few things you can do to help you cope with this holiday grief.  The first is: Reach Out for Support. The more you...

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Man Up and Call a Counselor

Posted by on Oct 27, 2013 in Cognitive, Coping Skills, Male Depression, Men, Mental Health, Therapy, Wellness | 0 comments

Men often avoid therapy in large extent due to receiving social messages from an early age to be tough and independent.  Independence has played a big role in our country’s identity starting with the founding fathers, continuing with pioneers who moved westward and over the years this idea of the independent male figure has grown to mythological proportions.  We should be able to fix the large truck that we bought with cash that we made with our own business that we worked nights to make a success.  The more pain we endure, mental or physical during the process, that’s just more evidence of...

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Full Moon and the Four Year Old Brain

Posted by on Dec 21, 2010 in Coping Skills, Parenting | 2 comments

I thought for sure that tonight was going to be the full moon. It turns out, it’s not until tomorrow night. No matter, close enough. After today I have a pretty good idea what to be on the look out for tomorrow, and how to prepare. First, lets get to the warning signs and symptoms you need to be on the lookout for if you are going to be taking care of a four year old during a full moon (heaven forbid you have more than one four year old): Unprovoked Shrieking. This can be unnerving. Try not to shriek back, it only encourages them. Speaking in tongues, otherwise known as swearing. If...

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